The big two and two. Woohoo!

Turning 22 is super anticlimactic, isn’t it? You can already vote, drive, there isn’t a club that will restrict you access (if you’re a girl, anyway)… Rent stuff if you want…No milestones here, buddy.

22 is basically the universe’s way of saying, “Congratulations full blown adult, you’re not interesting anymore!”

I’m glad to be 22 though. In the couple of decades I’ve been alive I’ve had so much to be thankful for; more than electrifying relationships, more than the plentiful instances of we-must-have-known-each-other-in-another-life kind of friendships, and finding myself…. I’m more than grateful for that one especially.

It sounds silly, I know. Done and tried. Finding myself. What does that mean, you pretentious hippie you?!
Yes, it’s one of the biggest clichΓ©s ever, but for someone like me, someone who’s spent her entire life looking to others to define her, it’s one hell of a milestone.

I’ve lost so much as well. I’m sad and glad, however, both in equal measure, for it was something that had to happen, if I was ever to get here, to this place where me and I don’t mean lonely or pathetic.

Here where my presence alone is enough.

I’m comfortable with myself, like settling into a cozy old sofa at the end of a long day. Utterly at peace.

And I’m not saying my life is perfect, I’m not perfect either. I just feel good in my own skin; at ease with my own awareness. I now know what I want, what I don’t, and as Beyonce puts it, “what I won’t tolerate”.


“She reminds me of you,” this from my sister as we’re introduced to the wizard cop’s sister (my memory, it fails me); a ditzy blonde with a knack for flirting. I, of course, can’t see it.

I’m different things to different people, I’ve learnt.

To my family, I’m an excitable lazy princess with a lot more men in her pocket than a conductor’s got change (lol I wish).

To my best friend, I’m a painfully shy, painfully short neurotic who can’t handle being spontaneous.

To a recent ex, I’m “too nice” (said with a disapproving frown).

And to my 4 year old cat, I’m a human shaped mattress.

For years, I found it close to impossible to reconcile how others saw me, and how I saw myself. As a teenager, it became deafeningly important to create a clear cut picture; something, I believed, that would help me know who I am, how to act… The very meaning of life, may be.

That’s not possible though, is it? Not for me, at least. I am not one thing, not like a character in a play; but the creation of far flung star dust.

I’m the stuff of dreams and poems. I’m made of soul and blood and demons in the sky. I’m beautiful and ugly, and wonderful and terrible and awesome and sad… And I’m 22. 

I’ve opened a door and stepped into a field. A large empty field. And I can build and plant and nurture. Or I can lie down on the grass and soak in the sun. 

I can do whatever I want; what a terrifyingly amazing fate.

Via ‘Other Perspectives’ Facebook page



  1. Happy Birthday. You are I think an old soul in a shinny new body, fresh out of the gate on a new adventure. You are a goddess wearing a body of spent star dust on a lark. Enjoy this adventure sweet child of the Universe as we all should – breathe deeply and love even deeper beginning with the “I am” the you inside of you. Thank you for sharing the lovely view from your very old but very young eyes.

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  2. Great post, really enjoyed reading your post. I can so relate to what you said about the battle between how you see yourself and how others see you. At 31 I’m still struggling with this concept so you’re doing well at 22.

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  3. “I’m the stuff of dreams and poems. I’m made of soul and blood and demons in the sky. I’m beautiful and ugly, and wonderful and terrible and awesome and sad… And I’m 22. ”

    I loved this. Also June baby here….

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  4. Reblogged this on Ace Friends & Bloggers News and commented:
    First thanks for visit and likes … This story of a book l will never write is a story in itself … As when l was 16 I thought as l was then and when l was 21 it changesd again and again and all through my life l wanted to write … But my ❀️ wasn’t in it until lm the age l am now … So look at your life as a book in itself … Then you will see its full of the wealth of knowledge and wisdom to come as you turn the pages of what is the past and the present will feature at the age you become … Shared you page with friends l now know … Ian

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